Words

                                                                                     

                                                                                          Words reflect thought and direct our experience. We talk about what we love, what’s going on, our ideas and our challenges. When used wisely they can be a catalyst for great innovation and wonder. But most often become competitive describing our worst case scenarios or every day  annoying experiences. Our words can be misguided, misunderstood  and hurtful.  Can you think of a time a conversation became intense with someones gory details propelling anxiety through the roof ? Remember how that felt? Now think of a time that great ideas and wonderful moments were the topic at hand. A completely different vibration of energy runs through each conversation and one is clearly more beneficial than the other. Growing up in Brooklyn there was a saying that I now understand to have been misstated so I've made an adjustment to  it.   Sticks and Stones will Break our Bones.... but WORDS CAN AND DO HARM US! They do such damage, create heartache and division. Think about the consequences... commiserating in negativity  propels us onto  paths of unwanted experience. The law of the Universe promises that on whatever we focus It will deliver. Therefore attention paid to the unwanted is equally powerful, creating more of the same. It’s all about focus. We  are responsible for the creation of our lives . Can we,  by changing conversation and refocusing thought, shift reality ?  The answer is YES....  Energy follows thought, word, action or intention. We are deliberate creators designing our life experience through our habits, thoughts and words.  Within this knowledge lies  POWER.... 

It is my lifelong experience in difficult conversations and situations that the gut-wrenching feeling in my belly tells all !  I get nervous, annoyed, frustrated and lose my ability to control my tone. I know that I’m faced with a choice to stop in my tracks and shift conversational focus or deal with the inevitable consequences .... manifesting more of the same, being misunderstood and/or hurting the other persons feelings.   So what to do?   Is there a way to stop the “momentum” ? Is it socially acceptable to remove oneself and not look like a goody two shoes or a holier than thou person ?  The risks are real... Lose a friend or family member, be mis-understood or simply seem detached to the issues of those we engage. . Maybe even worse, be thought of as a person who just does’t care and lacks compassion.. We can make changes, although uncomfortable at first, by politely pointing out that the conversation is going in a direction that will not lead us to a end that is beneficial or positive for anyone.  It takes courage, confidence and self control.  I know because I am working through this myself, and while it is very difficult it is worth the effort and the ease I feel in my body. 

Going forward I’m taking the path of power and courage, giving myself the opportunity to live within the contrast of my environment, knowing that I am becoming an expanded version of myself through the creation of  new pathways and behaviors, whether understood or embraced by anyone beside me.  My actions and feelings tell all and I must seek truth in them to be fully alive and happy. 

Make the change, choose Power over Pity.. We can only be in one.... 

Today’s empowering tips:     

Decide to release any complaint from your conversation. Be mindful of what words come out of your mouth. When this is established it becomes clear that most conversation is related to dissatisfaction, or at least winds up there.  If we are truly non-complainers we have no desire to commiserate, therefore we can not take part. 

Do not exaggerate, compare or assume.. They are direct causes of pain.  

Appreciate the challenge of the conversation and begin to redirect by using the phrase “this conversation is not leading us to a beneficial or positive  end.” No one wants to be the object of gossip, finger pointing or maligned. Why would we knowingly contribute to the pain of another?  

Remember self appreciation, trust and approval is key. . We are doing the best we can right now so when we fail, be compassionate and go for it next time.. I promise there is always an opportunity around the bend. 

Life is a journey, not a destination. 

Feel free to post your questions and comments. I look forward to hearing from you. Remember we are all on this journey growing and learning as we go, so your input will bring enlightenment to many. 

In Power, Peace & Love, 

Mary Ann

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