BLAME

We are the thinker of our thoughts and the chooser of our paths. We’re quick to take credit for that which works out and expend much energy on finding someone or something to blame when things don’t go the way we’d like. 

Mental Health Professionals spend countless sessions rehashing with patients their relationships with parents. We blame our mothers for our faults and shortcomings, we blame our fathers for our place in the world among various other things.  We are looking for answers to our current issues by focusing on the past when there is no way to undo what has been done. Our only option is to  change today and to live in this moment, to focus on where we are with self love and embrace what was with an understanding that we are a product of our former  environment.  All parents were damaged in some way. That damage weaved its way into our lives, like it or not. Life’s path is meant to teach us to grow through the discomfort of contrasting experience, not to make excuses for who we are as a result of them. 

Our parents are a representation of those who raised them and they've done their best with what they know. They have had their own injustices and struggles. Their life experiences have created the families we know, good, bad or indifferent. Looking back prohibits us from moving on.  We don’t, for example, drive our vehicle forward while gazing steadily into the rear view mirror. A car windshield is broad and wide so we clearly see where we’re headed while the rear view mirror is small and narrow purposed only for checking  behind us so we can move forward safely. Do we blame the traffic behind us for our driving forward experience?  No of course not, that just doesn’t make sense. So why blame the past? Why find fault when it is the object of our lives to grow because of the contrasting experiences we've faced . We must find a new way to be, new thoughts to think, develop better habits that bring joy and happiness into our lives using the tools that we now have.  Ultimately we are the sculptor creating our lives, the artist painting our path, the designer putting each detail into place. 

Todays Empowering Tip:  Visualize parents as small children and know them as vulnerable and afraid, raised by their parents who were also damaged. Imagine being able to comfort them in their childhood and love them through their fears. Know their fragility and forgive their mistakes and misgivings that were brought into our experience as a result of all of this. It is said that we choose our parents before we come to this planet. We know what we want to learn and find the perfect teachers to help us grow and expand. So release them now, whether alive or deceased, and find freedom.... it is up to us to make our life a beautiful experience. The power of forgiveness is immeasurable and we hold the key that unlocks our future. 

Make the change, choose Power over Pity.. We can only be in one.... 

Feel free to post your questions and comments. I look forward to hearing from you. Remember we are all on this journey growing and learning as we go, so your input will bring enlightenment to many.

In Power, Peace & Love, 

Mary Ann ....      

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